Raw Love the Podcast

Raw Love the Podcast - Episode 4

Updated 6 days ago

Episode 4 of Raw Love is here! This week we’re getting real about how sibling order shapes who we are, mapping out pleasure & turn-ons (it gets light weight juicy), and sharing deeper into the highs and lows of reverse culture shock after moving back to the U.S. from Costa Rica. Tune in for insights, laughs, and raw truths you won’t want to miss.

Chapters

Introduction to Love Y'all Podcast (00:00:00)
The hosts introduce the episode and welcome listeners to another installment of the Love Y'all podcast.

The episode opens with the hosts expressing excitement about being back in the studio for another episode of the Love Y'all podcast. They greet their listeners with enthusiasm and set the tone for the show.
Morning Routine and Family Life (00:00:07)
The hosts discuss their morning routines, including hot yoga and spending time with family before starting the day.

One of the hosts shares their morning routine, which includes attending a hot yoga class and spending some quality time with their daughter, Indigo, before sending her off to kindergarten. They discuss the joy of seeing their child in new shoes, gifted by Auntie Jaji, and the happiness it brings.
Barber Shop Adventures (00:01:31)
A host shares their experience of finding a new barber after returning to the States, encountering various challenges.

The host recounts their quest to find a new barber after moving back to the United States. They describe their experiences at different barber shops, the difficulties of being a walk-in customer, and the humorous yet awkward interactions with barbers. The story highlights the host's struggle to find a barber that meets their expectations.
Yoga at a New Studio (00:08:18)
The host shares their experience attending a new yoga studio in Michigan, appreciating the variety of instructors.

The host talks about joining a new yoga studio in Michigan and the differences they notice compared to their previous studio. They express appreciation for the diverse range of instructors and the opportunity to attend longer yoga classes, which they find beneficial for their practice.
Discussion on Family Dynamics (00:10:21)
The hosts discuss family dynamics, focusing on the differences between having siblings and being an only child.

The conversation shifts to family dynamics, with the hosts reflecting on their own experiences growing up with siblings versus raising an only child. They discuss the unique challenges and attributes of being an only child and the differences in upbringing and personality development.
Sibling Order and Identity (00:16:56)
The hosts explore how sibling order influences identity, sharing personal experiences and insights.

In this segment, the hosts delve into how the order of siblings in a family can shape one's identity and life experiences. They share personal anecdotes about their own siblings, discussing how being the oldest, middle, or youngest child affects personality and family roles.
Family Dynamics and Sibling Relationships (00:24:13)
The speaker discusses the dynamics within their family, highlighting the relationships with their siblings and the unique bonds they share.

The speaker reflects on their family structure, which consists of three boys and three girls, and how this has led to distinct relationships among siblings. They mention having a 'ride or die' friend within the family, as well as the importance of individual relationships outside of the family unit.
Challenges in Sibling Bonds (00:25:00)
The speaker expresses regret over not being there for their brother Mohamed as much as they wanted to, due to a significant age gap.

The speaker shares their feelings about the difficulty in maintaining a close relationship with their brother Mohamed, citing a three-and-a-half-year age gap as a barrier. They also discuss the efforts made to rebuild the relationship after a fallout.
Importance of Sibling Relationships (00:26:24)
The speaker emphasizes the value of sibling relationships while also acknowledging the need for individual independence.

The speaker talks about the importance of fostering and nurturing sibling relationships, but also highlights the necessity for individuals to venture out and learn who they are independently of their family.
Estranged Siblings and Cultural Differences (00:27:03)
The speaker contrasts their experience with estranged siblings to what they perceive as a normalization of such estrangements in certain cultures.

The speaker discusses their surprise at the normalization of estranged sibling relationships in certain cultures, particularly among white Americans, and contrasts this with their own close familial ties.
Birth Order and Middle Child Experience (00:27:12)
The speaker shares insights into the experience of being a middle child, noting the lack of attention compared to first and last children.

Using an anecdote from TikTok, the speaker explores the unique challenges faced by middle children, including a perceived lack of significance in the family dynamic compared to their older and younger siblings.
Cultural Observations and Individualism (00:29:33)
The speaker reflects on the cultural emphasis on individualism in certain societies and its impact on family relationships.

The discussion touches on cultural differences, particularly the emphasis on individualism in white American culture, and how this contrasts with other cultures that prioritize communal and familial connections.
Middle Child Success and Recognition (00:32:18)
The speaker highlights the success of middle children, noting that many millionaires are middle children.

The speaker shares a statistic that middle children are disproportionately represented among millionaires, emphasizing the silent achievements and work ethic of middle children despite often being overlooked.
Reflections on Family Expectations (00:33:33)
The speaker discusses family expectations and their own experiences as the first son, including the pressures and recognition associated with it.

Reflecting on their role as the first son, the speaker talks about the expectations and pressures that come with it, as well as the recognition they receive from their family, contrasting this with the experiences of their siblings.
Reverse Culture Shock and Community Building (00:36:02)
The speaker discusses the challenges and insights gained from experiencing reverse culture shock and building community in different cultures.

The speaker shares their experiences of reverse culture shock upon returning to the US, highlighting the difficulties in building community and the cultural differences in how relationships are valued and formed.
Experiencing Different Cultural Norms (00:39:11)
The speaker reflects on cultural differences in community building and social interactions experienced in Costa Rica.

The speaker describes how living in Costa Rica taught them about different cultural norms regarding community and social interactions, emphasizing the contrasting pace of life and the focus on relationships compared to the US.
Adjusting to a Slower Pace of Life (00:45:15)
The speaker shares their experience of adjusting to a slower pace of life in Costa Rica and the cultural significance of this change.

Reflecting on their time in Costa Rica, the speaker discusses how they learned to slow down and appreciate a more intentional way of living, contrasting it with the fast-paced, task-oriented culture they were used to.
Finding Balance in Life (00:50:19)
Discussion about the importance of balance between slowing down and staying productive, and the dangers of sympathetic nervous system dominance.

The speakers discuss how living life at a constant fast pace can lead to dominance of the sympathetic nervous system, causing stress and health issues. They emphasize the need for finding a middle ground where one can slow down to appreciate life and speed up when necessary, avoiding chronic stress.
Chronic Stress in America (00:51:01)
Exploration of how chronic stress has become a state of being in the United States and the importance of being present in life.

The conversation shifts to how the state of chronic stress is prevalent in America, but the speakers express their desire to be part of a growing group of people who focus on being present in their lives. They discuss the importance of being in tune with oneself and living in the moment.
Intimate Relationships and Parenting (00:51:48)
Introduction to the challenges of maintaining intimacy in relationships while parenting, and the concept of 'turn on mapping'.

The speakers introduce a shift in the conversation towards intimacy and relationships. They discuss how parenting affects intimate relationships and introduce the concept of 'turn on mapping', which involves understanding what emotionally, mentally, and physically turns one on and communicating that with partners.
Turn On Mapping (00:52:57)
Importance of exploring and communicating what turns you on with your partner to enhance intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

The speakers elaborate on 'turn on mapping', encouraging listeners to explore and communicate what turns them on to their partners. This process helps in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling intimate relationship, especially as individuals and relationships evolve over time.
Changes After Motherhood (00:53:57)
Discussion on the physical and emotional changes women undergo after childbirth and the importance of partners understanding these changes.

The focus shifts to the changes women experience after childbirth, both physically and mentally. The speakers highlight the importance of partners being aware and understanding of these changes, as it can significantly impact the relationship and intimacy.
Navigating Relationship Changes (00:55:57)
Emphasizing the need for couples to adapt to changes in their relationship dynamics over time, especially after becoming parents.

The speakers discuss how relationship dynamics change over time, particularly after becoming parents. They stress the importance of adapting to these changes and continuously learning about each other to maintain a strong and satisfying relationship.
Responsive Lovers (01:03:09)
Understanding the concept of being a 'responsive lover' and how it affects relationship dynamics and intimacy.

One speaker identifies as a 'responsive lover', meaning they respond to the dynamics of their day-to-day life and relationship, which influences their intimacy. This concept is explored as a key factor in understanding and improving relationship dynamics.
Importance of Quality Time (01:05:07)
Quality time as a love language and its impact on intimacy and relationship satisfaction, especially for mothers.

The speakers delve into how quality time is a significant love language that affects intimacy, particularly for mothers who juggle many roles. They discuss how spending quality time together helps build a deeper connection and enhances relationship satisfaction.
Childhood Joys and Creativity (01:08:01)
Reflecting on childhood activities that brought joy and the desire to reconnect with those activities as adults.

The conversation turns nostalgic as the speakers reflect on activities they loved as children, such as dancing and painting, and express a desire to reconnect with these creative outlets as adults to bring joy and relaxation into their lives.
Promotions and Announcements (01:10:03)
Promotion of upcoming events and personal projects, including a Reiki certification program and a relaxation book.

The speakers conclude the episode with promotions and announcements about their upcoming projects. They mention a Reiki certification program and a new relaxation book designed to help people find peace and center themselves in the midst of their busy lives.

Raw Love the Podcast (2 Episodes)

Updated 6 days ago

The Raw Love Podcast is dynamic in the topics discussed. General themes that you can expect are parenting struggles/wins, living consciously, travel and living abroad, healthy critique of the western world and colonizer conditioning, and much more!