All Stories Matter - He Brightens Every Room He Walks Into. A Conversation with Ben Zylman

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In this engaging episode of 'All Stories Matter,' host Marvinetta Woodley Penn sits down with Ben Zylman, a beloved member of the Kalamazoo theater community, to uncover his remarkable story. From his early dreams of becoming an actor to his influential role as a director and mentor, Ben shares candid insights into his life in theater. The conversation highlights his experiences at the Civic Theater, the challenges and triumphs he's faced, and the importance of storytelling and mentorship. Viewers will be inspired by Ben's dedication to the arts and his impact on young performers. Join Marvinetta and Ben for a heartfelt discussion that celebrates the power of storytelling and the vibrant theater scene in Kalamazoo.

Chapters

Introduction and Host Presentation (00:00:16)
The host, Marvinetta Woodley Penn, introduces herself and the show's theme, "All Stories Matter."

Marvinetta Woodley Penn greets the audience, acknowledging the different times they might be watching the video. She introduces herself as the host of "All Stories Matter," emphasizing the importance of storytelling.
Importance of Storytelling (00:00:27)
Marvinetta emphasizes the significance of telling one's own story to prevent misinterpretation by others.

Marvinetta explains that if people don't tell their own stories, someone else might, and they might not get it right. She gives an example of a personal story from third grade that only the individual might know.
Guest Introduction: Ben Zylman (00:01:09)
Marvinetta introduces her guest, Ben Zylman, a well-known figure in the community and theater.

Marvinetta introduces Ben Zylman, highlighting his connection to the Civic Theater and his influence in the community. She expresses excitement for him to share his story.
Ben Zylman's Background (00:01:32)
Ben talks about his upbringing in Portage, Michigan, and his early education.

Ben discusses his childhood in Portage, Michigan, mentioning that it was less developed and affluent at the time. He talks about attending Portage Central Elementary and High School.
Growing Up in a Large Family (00:03:00)
Ben describes his experience growing up with five siblings in a busy household.

Ben shares that he grew up with six children in the family, with three boys and three girls. He describes it as a busy and simpler time with only one bathroom and one TV for the whole family.
Early Influences and Acting Aspirations (00:05:12)
Ben reflects on his early acting ambitions and influences, including the show "I Love Lucy."

Ben recalls knowing he wanted to be an actor since third grade, despite not openly saying it. He was influenced by watching "I Love Lucy" and later pursued acting without formal training.
First Theater Experience (00:08:15)
Ben recounts his first live theater experience, which solidified his passion for acting.

Ben describes attending his first live theater performance at the Barn Theater in Augusta, Michigan, thanks to his aunt. The magical experience of watching a play in person left a lasting impression on him.
High School Involvement (00:13:14)
Ben was heavily involved in high school activities, including theater and DECA.

During high school, Ben engaged in various activities, excelling in both theater and the DECA program, which focused on business education.
Journey into Professional Life (00:21:57)
Ben describes transitioning from high school into a professional career without attending college.

After high school, Ben went straight into work, starting at Gilmore's Department Store, where he held several managerial roles while continuing his involvement in theater.
Introduction to the Civic Theater (00:24:08)
Ben shares his first experience and role at the Civic Theater in "Showboat."

Ben talks about auditioning for the Civic Theater's summer program and landing a role in 'Showboat,' marking his introduction to the Civic community.
Reflecting on Past Relationships (00:29:18)
The speaker reminisces about past relationships formed during shows, emphasizing the lasting impact and the ease of reconnecting.

The conversation starts with the speaker reflecting on the many people they've lost touch with over the years. Despite the passage of time, they still remember the names and the significant roles those individuals played in their life. The speaker talks about the moments shared during shows and rehearsals, highlighting the preciousness of those times. They discuss the bonds formed over weeks of working towards a common goal and the magic of picking up where they left off when they meet again.
The Path to Kindleberger Theater (00:30:35)
The speaker talks about their journey to Kindleberger Theater and their involvement in various productions.

The discussion shifts to Kindleberger Theater, with the speaker recounting how they got involved. They mention having only attended one show there last summer and then describe their involvement in a production of 'Brighton Beach Memoirs.' They reflect on the history of the theater program and their engagement with it over the years.
Experiences in Various Productions (00:31:05)
The speaker shares various experiences in theater, including roles in different productions and the challenges faced.

The speaker talks about the numerous shows they've been part of, including theater, movies, commercials, and radio programs. They mention working with a director, David Grapes, and performing in productions like 'Camelot,' 'Brigadoon,' and 'The Robber Bridegroom.' The speaker also directed 'Guys and Dolls,' 'South Pacific,' and 'The Pirates of Penzance,' spending several years involved in these productions and loving every moment.
Challenges of Theater Production (00:31:59)
The speaker discusses the physical challenges actors face during theater productions, such as extreme temperatures.

The conversation shifts to the challenges faced during productions, particularly regarding weather conditions. The speaker recalls directing 'South Pacific' where the actors were supposed to be on a tropical island but had to contend with cold temperatures. They describe how the actors, scantily clad, struggled with the cold and how the audience was bundled under blankets. Similarly, in 'The Pirates of Penzance,' the actors dealt with extreme heat, often barefoot on a hot stage. These anecdotes highlight the unpredictable nature of theater and the dedication required from actors.
Memorable Shows and Friendships (00:34:34)
The speaker reflects on memorable theater experiences and lasting friendships formed during productions.

The speaker fondly remembers a production of 'The Robber Bridegroom' at the Civic Theater, where they met one of their best friends, Michelle Hopkins. They recall the camaraderie of going out after every rehearsal and performance, forming close bonds with fellow cast members. The speaker reminisces about Schwartz's, a downtown restaurant where theater companies gathered, fostering a vibrant and social theatrical community.
Overcoming Negative Reviews (00:36:32)
The speaker shares experiences with negative reviews and how they affected their confidence but ultimately helped them grow.

The speaker recounts a difficult experience with a negative review for a show called 'The Diviners,' which criticized their performance. This review stuck with them for a long time, impacting their confidence. However, years later, during a production of 'Damn Yankees,' a photo from 'The Diviners' inadvertently reminded them of the past criticism. Despite these challenges, the speaker learned to grow from such experiences and move forward.
Finding Success in Theater Roles (00:38:34)
The speaker discusses roles where they felt successful and confident, highlighting personal growth in acting.

The speaker reflects on roles where they felt they 'knocked it out of the park,' such as their performance in 'The Diary of Anne Frank' at Farmer's Alley Theater and playing Renfield in 'Dracula.' They describe these as solid performances, recognizing their own growth and skill in these roles. The speaker appreciates the affirmation and validation from these successful experiences, reinforcing their passion for acting.
The Importance of Knowing Your Talent (00:54:27)
The speaker emphasizes the need for performers to understand their own talent and what they bring to the table.

In a discussion about performing, the speaker stresses the importance of having a clear and honest understanding of one's own talent. They note that performers must know what they do well and what they bring to the performance, as this self-awareness helps navigate the challenges and criticisms of the industry. The speaker suggests that this understanding is crucial for success and personal fulfillment in the performing arts.
Reflections on Directing and Teaching (00:57:31)
The speaker discusses their role as a director and teacher, emphasizing the educational aspects of directing plays.

The speaker reflects on their career in theater, expressing that despite directing many plays, they see themselves more as a teacher. They consider the plays they direct as tools to teach and share knowledge, particularly with young people.
Opportunities and Motivation (00:58:31)
The conversation shifts to the speaker's approach to opportunities and their motivation to pursue them.

The speaker admits to being somewhat passive in seeking out opportunities, relying on being approached by others rather than actively seeking projects. They express a sense of fortune and gratitude for the opportunities that have come their way.
Career Path and Luck (00:59:11)
The discussion covers the speaker's career path, highlighting the role of luck and opportunity in their journey.

The speaker talks about their experiences in acting and directing, noting that while acting required auditions, many directing opportunities seemed to come naturally to them without much pursuit on their part.
Aspiration and Civic Projects (01:00:00)
The speaker shares their thoughts on future directing projects and the concept of a 'bucket list' of shows.

The speaker reveals they don't have specific shows they aspire to direct, but they are open to opportunities that feel right. They mention a past desire to direct 'The Diary of Anne Frank' and their openness to future projects.
Appreciation and Performance (01:00:38)
A mutual appreciation is shared between the speaker and the interviewer regarding talent and performances.

The conversation turns to mutual admiration between the speaker and the interviewer, each praising the other's talent and encouraging audiences to see them perform. The bond between the two is evident through their exchange.
The Importance of Storytelling (01:01:20)
The closing remarks emphasize the importance of storytelling and sharing one's life experiences, especially with the next generation.

The speaker highlights the significance of sharing personal stories with others, particularly children, to help them understand their heritage and identity. The conversation ends with encouragement for everyone to share their stories.